Parenting Month is coming to a close.  I’ve had a lot of fun.

A funny thing happened this week in one of my classes.  The kids were being silly and were asking me if they could call me all kinds of made up names.  You know, silly nonsense names that just popped into their heads.  One girl blurted out, “Can I call you ‘Dad’?”

After I laughed my face off, I said, “No.  No one calls me Dad.”  I’m still laughing about that one.

The kids had a hard time with that.  They couldn’t understand how I could be married and not have a kid.  I tried to explain that they don’t just hand you a kid when you get married.

My path toward parenthood is far from over, but before I take a break from talking about it on the blog, I’ve got a confession.

I really really don’t want to reproduce.  That’s what I’m scared of.

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This is it, the last big parenting topic before I close out this series on Friday.

See, everyone likes “homemade” things.

Home cooked dinners, cookies, cards, gifts, everyone likes those things.  Eating out of a takeout box every night is unhealthy or depressing.  And a handmade card conveys so much more feeling than Hallmark…

But then again, store bought stuff is pretty good too.  No one likes watching home movies.  And who wants a homemade bicycle or a homemade PlayStation?  No thanks.  Sometimes, pre-packaged, store bought things are okay.

So while my wife and I continue to wait for the stork to show up, there are plenty of people loading up with ready-made kids.

So I ask: should we just go shopping instead of doing things the old-fashioned way?

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Here we are, the topic that really inspired this whole series on parenting for me.

See, my wife and I have sat in the waiting rooms where people go when nature needs some help making babies.  And there’s always these helpful pamphlets sitting around offering all kinds of “counseling.”

Counseling?  Sounds helpful!  Though I just can’t decipher what “genetic counseling” means.  But it looks so promising.  Look at those happy couples in the pamphlet with their perfect baby.  And there are hundreds of tests that we can opt for, before and during pregnancy, which promise to help us make “informed” decisions.

And look at that, the pamphlet even promises that we can wipe out Down’s Syndrome, through the magic of science!

What prospective parent would choose to be uninformed?  And what parent would choose for their kid to have Down’s Syndrome?  It sounds so promising, but maybe in a George Orwell dystopian nightmare kind of way.

The pamphlets and tests and medical advice are so commonplace, I don’t really know what to do.  So I asked for some help to sort things out.

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Kids need heroes.  They need role models.

And our culture has no shortage of role models.  I don’t think there’s an application to fill out or an interview process to become some kid’s role model.  There’s no certificate.  You just become one.

The problem with that system is that all kinds of people are running around, being role models, who have absolutely no business being looked up to by young children.

Simple question today: who is your kid’s hero?  You probably won’t like the answer.

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The journey into parenting continues, and today we’re discussing a topic near and dear to me: education.  And it’s fitting, since there’s no school today.

I have a passion for teaching children and education’s power to change lives.  The problem is that education is America is failing.  Our kids are still kind of stupid when they graduate.

So it can be a daunting task for parents to decide (if they have a choice) where to send the kids to school.   To a public school, where they might lose their souls?  To private school, where you can break the bank?  Or to homeschool, where children will be socially handicapped forever?  Can a child thrive in any school environment if the parents don’t have any other options?

I got a few people who know a thing or two about education to help me out.  Turns out, maybe the choices aren’t all that grim.

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If there’s one thing everyone likes, it’s a good story.

And if there’s one thing I can’t stand, it’s what is typically marketed to children as “literature” or “entertainment.”

Children’s literature and television are, for the most part, abysmal.  The average children’s cartoon is an assault to the senses composed of cheap animation, lousy voice acting, asinine writing and Elmo.  Most children’s books don’t fare any better.  To most people, the children’s market is an excuse to insult the customer with shoddy work.  Why?  Because kids “don’t know any better.”

I detest this, because kids deserve better.  I love authors who care enough to put love into something, even if it’s just for kids.  Put quality in front of kids, and they learn to recognize and appreciate it.  And working in a school and tutoring kids, I’ve always kept an eye out for the best books that should be on every kids’ bookshelf.

I’ve got my picks here (complete with handy Amazon links.)  Read through and tell me what else my future kids just have to read!

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