God Will Always Give You More Than You Can Handle

September 28, 2012

“God will never give you more than you can handle.”

I just heard that on Christian radio the other day.  Before that, I heard it in a sermon.  It sounds like Gospel truth, doesn’t it?  It’s a nice, warm, fuzzy thought.  No matter what you are going through, don’t worry!  It may feel like the floodgates have opened right on top of you and you are going to drown.  But no matter what happens, you can handle it.  Yay!

Except it’s not in the Bible.

That wouldn’t be such a bad thing, except that the opposite is actually true.

God has a habit of giving people more than they can handle.

In fact, I’d say that God has to give you more than you can handle.

God Will Never Give You More Than You Can Handle…Unless You’re One of These Guys

When people say “God will never give you more than you can handle,” they’re misquoting a line from 1 Corinthians.  Paul actually says that we will never be tempted beyond what we can resist.  (And that’s in the context of not getting drunk at communion.  So…yeah.)

When I read my Bible, I see all kinds of people who were given more than they could handle. 

Moses, Joshua, Elijah, Job, Jeremiah, Ezekiel, Isaiah, Mary, Martha, Paul.  We wouldn’t really have a Bible if God was in the habit of only giving people what they could handle.

All of them had more than they could handle.  They complained.  They groaned.  Sometimes they prayed that God would kill them.  Doesn’t sound like the cozy Christian life, huh?

When I think about my life: my job that exhausts me, my wife’s and my quest for a child, all the little demands on my time and the fear that I’ll never accomplish the big things on my heart, I cry out to God, “This is more than I can handle!”

A Very Special Thorn Just For You

After Paul’s mission to Jerusalem has blown up, he has been arrested, deported to Rome, shipwrecked and thrown in prison, he says that God sent a very special thorn, just for him!  Nice going, God.

And then God tells Paul that when he is overwhelmed and has too much to deal with, He is strong enough for both of them.

God never would have been able to tell Paul that if He had only given Paul what he could handle.

We always use this nonsense that God will never give us more than we can handle at the times it makes the least sense: the loss of a job, or a spouse, or a child, or some catastrophe.  It is more than we can handle!  We all get thorns that we wish God would take away because we can’t handle them.

If God Is Only Giving You What You Can Handle…

As much as we’d like to think that God will never give us more than we can handle, it’s actually critical that we learn the opposite is true.

If God is only giving you what you can handle, you’ll never have to be dependent on God.

If God is only giving you what you can handle, then you are staying in your comfort zone.

If God is only giving you what you can handle, then you aren’t growing.

If you want God to use your life for something great, it’s going to be more than you can handle.  God’s plans are huge!  If God’s plans relied on human limitations, He’d never get anything done.

In fact, if you can handle everything that God has given you, it means God doesn’t trust you with very much.

But don’t worry, God’s going to give you way, way more than you can handle, and then pick up the slack.

When was the last time you heard that phrase?  What do you say to people when they say it?  When was the last time God gave you more than you could handle?

88 responses to God Will Always Give You More Than You Can Handle

  1. This soooo resonates with me. I am an intelligent woman with good friends yet, even though I can see the easy way to do things, doors shut and the hard way is the only road open. This, my mother who is a Christian has never been able to understand. From when I was a little girl, all I wanted was to be a wife and mother, which I am not. I have often felt akin to Abraham and Sarah’s story trying to learn to be patient but long term single and 42 does not look good on the relationship CV yet I feel that a husband and possibly a family, would still be the right path for me. I feel more close to Job although he lost everything! I never had it. I thoroughly enjoy your perspective and agree with it. My friend and I were emailing about this very subject today.
    Thanks again.

  2. Great post. Several years ago I read a John Ortberg book where he discussed this same topic. God is ALWAYS giving us more than we can handle. That’s because we were never intended to handle it. When we are weak..He is strong!

  3. It’s a comforting phrase when you feel that you are handling it. I am not going to defend the phrase as biblical, but a lot of things people have to deal with don’t kill them.

    In the 80’s my life blew apart. My Christian wife met another man, I was the passenger in a car accident that left me barely walking for 15 weeks, and because I was unable to work, I ended up in a welfare motel. A hard working guy unable to take care of his basic needs was far more than I could handle. Yet, because I handled that, I don’t sweat the small stuff – in fact I don’t sweat the big stuff.

    I had a priest that I was friends with when I was an Anglican, he used to say: “I envy your faith, but for me, I pray for an easy life.”

  4. All Christians talk about wanting a “breakthrough” in their lives, but the funny thing about “breakthrough” is it requires pressure. Allot of it.

  5. The only real “breakthrough” that we will receive is when the shovel breaks through the ground at our funeral.

    Then Christ will breakthrough and raise us again. Other than that, we walk by faith and not by sight and it surely won’t be easy much of the time.

    • the problem i see a lot today is that people have forgotten that God says ask and you shall receive. if you feel ypu can not handle something you must ask for His help in order to be able to bear such burdens. but God works on His time… not ours… so if you are burdened and feel as if you can not handle it, ask and be patient. :) He is an amazing God and uf you truly open your self up to him you will feek his comforting spirit upon you. you will be comforted by the one true king, thw God og Abraham,Issac, and Jacob. never shall a problem of this life discourage you whrn ypu give it to God and let Him take care of it. <3 He is good!!

  6. So much truth in your words. Thanks for the reminder!

  7. That song drives me nuts too, especially how it repeats over and over, “Just remember what He said!” It’s one thing if a song wants to rhapsodize about a silly platitude, but to insist over and over that it is biblically sound! What damage do such platitudes, such lies do to people who are in pain? Piling onto their burden some more guilt for not being able to handle what supposedly the Bible says you can!

  8. Totally awesome post. There have been so many times when I was pretty sure that God was trying to kill me or drive me crazy with what He was asking me to do. Now I look back and say “Meh. I was just being a drama queen.”

    I like the twist in phrasing at the end. Maybe another way to put it is “God will never give more than He can handle.” :-D.

  9. AMEN and preach it, brother. Next time I hear that bromide I will point them to this post rather than stick a finger in his or her eye.

  10. I have been guilty of spreading that lie. While watching a friend that I love dearly wrestle with problems that seem to keep growing beyond imagination, I realized God does give us more than we can handle, but through it all I have watched him grow. Despite the crushing weight on his shoulders He is still trusting.

  11. “In fact, if you can handle everything that God has given you, it means God doesn’t trust you with very much.”

    So, so GOOD. I’ve felt this exact way but you put it so much more eloquently than I’ve done in the past.

  12. You’ve got this one exactly right. Thanks Matt. I always think of the kiddie hymn, Jesus Loves Me, … We are weak and he is strong.
    Dang, life is more than we can handle most days. Amen and amen.

  13. Matt, I know we’re saying the same thing, just in a different way:
    God always gives me more than I think I can handle, and I discover what he always knew — I can handle it. With his help.

  14. Hmmm… I came to the same conclusions in my post last October: http://compost-blog.com/2011/10/18/its-ok-to-be-overwhelmed/. I’d feel just a teeny bit plagiarized, except you did a MUCH better job. 😉

    The good news is that He doesn’t give me more than GOD and I can handle. He carries all the weight, and just gives me a little daypack with granola bar and a bottle of water in it.

  15. Great stuff, Matt! I wrote a piece on this exact phrase last month, particularly as it relates to being the father of an autistic child. Part of my frustration is the theology behind the phrase: it assumes that every hardship we experience was directed by God. As if suffering couldn’t have possibly come as a result of other people’s choices, of my choices, of living in a fallen world, or even from the devil himself. But then, many will disagree with me. I’m not very Reformed, after all…

  16. Maybe I’m the only one, or maybe I’m missing something, but something about your post sounds a bit “off” to me.

    I’ve heard “God won’t give you more than you can handle” for most of my life. While I have found that notion comforting at times, I think I can see your point about how it may be overly simplistic.

    However, the other point seems to be “God actually gives us MORE than we can handle so that we’ll learn to rely on Him”. I’ve heard that point made before in sermons as well.

    I can see how that concept jives with other parts of Bible, but doesn’t it, in a way, create kind of a sadistic portrait of God? How does a relationship that’s based on the notion “I’m going to screw with you so that you’ll be more dependant on me” become a relationship that we actually want to willingly enter into?

    I mean, suppose I gave my 6-year-old twenty bucks and told him to take a bus downtown and buy his own dinner. Then, after failing at that (if he didn’t get run over or kidnapped first) I told him “Sweetie, I did that to show you how much you need me and to teach you that you can’t do everything on your own.”

    I would be a pretty evil abusive hag of a mom if I did something like that. So, why do we imagine that God is essentially doing the same thing to us?

    I’m not trying to be argumentative, but this notion just strikes me as kind of warped. If I’m misinterpreting, maybe someone can clarify it for me.

    • I can totally see how you could view it this way. While I can’t answer the why of what God does — whether he actually gives us more than we can handle or simply allows it — I can say that the experience of relying on him more is so enlightening, exhilarating, and freeing, life wouldn’t be Life without it. (Even so, being the wimpy human that I am, given the choice, I’d probably choose the easy life).

    • Abby- its not overly simplistic. It’s just not in the Bible at all!

      I don’t take it to be sadistic. When I feel overwhelmed, I open my Bible and find that I am in good company.

    • Hi Abby,

      We are right in a season of more than we can handle. Right after our marriage, we went through fertility treatment that resulted in two babies, 18 months apart, a job loss, 2 weeks after the second child born, a move, a career change, a new business, an extended family breakdown….definitely more than we could bear. So many times I cried out — enough God, I’ve had enough, but God knew better. It was only once I stopped and realized that I was still relying on myself, not turning to him first, that things began to turn. Some may call that sadistic, but he wasn’t making my life go so wrong, just leaving me to my own ill-intentioned devices and watching me flounder wondering when I would get it, that all I needed to do was rely on him, and accept his grace. Does that mean we won’t continue to struggle. Probably not, but my perspective has changed from the horizontal to the vertical, so the struggles don’t seems as overwhelming. Hope that helps.

    • —Well, for it not being in the Bible, my parents sure did say it a lot :)

      Actually, another thing my dad would tell me when I was having an especially bad day was “God’s just testing you”. You gotta love my dad, but that one’s made a lot less sense to me as I’ve grown older.

      –Maybe it’s a question of, I don’t know, semantics?

      I mean, I’m pretty okay with the idea of bad stuff happening because of natural forces, or entropy, or the simple fact that we live in a flawed world and @#$t happens sometimes. Relying on God makes more sense in that situation.

      It’s when someone starts talking about God **causing** the bad stuff to happen that He goes from “loving creator” to “crazy ex-boyfriend” in my mind.

    • Abby I think that you make a lot of sense in your questioning, but I think that the analogy that you use is just a little “off.” I think comparing what God does with us to giving your 6 year old bus money and sending him off into town, is only a part of the picture. If we use that analogy it would be a parent giving a 6 yr old bus money then riding with the child but making him give the money to the driver (the correcting him when he gives the wrong amount) then taking him to dinner letting him order for himself (then making sure he ate the veggies that came with the meal). God does not simply throw us out into the world alone (remember “I will never leave you or forsake you…” Hebrews 13:5) He goes with us into the world, and this world is VERY often more than we can handle. I for one am glad I don’t have to wade through the crap alone.

  17. This is an eye-opener for me. Didn’t realize how badly it was bein’ taken out of context.

  18. I’ve always thought that saying was based on 1 Corinthians 10:13
    “There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it.”

  19. Love it. I haven’t heard that phrase in a long time, but I also never thought it was correct, either.

  20. I’ve heard that in the neighborhood of 873 million times in the last 4 years. We sold out and moved to Paraguay as independent missionaries. No salary just free will donations to live on. The ministry we moved to be a part of was in shambles. We moved on.

    We were sold a vehicle with no title and 3 outstanding debts. 4 years later I should get the title next month. Meanwhile the engine blew up 3 times. the last time it was parked for a 1 1/2 years.

    I found out I needed emergency open heart surgery to replace a valve. No time to get back to the U.S. 2 months later my wife was hit by a car and shattered her femur. She is facing her third surgery soon, walks with a cane and has a hardware store in her leg.

    We bought a beater car to get to therapy and it has been hit 9 times, once staying in the shop 3 months. It’s wrecked down 1 side now courtesy of a drunk driver who fled.

    All this while learning a new language and culture and battling the local version of legalism. There plenty of times it was more than I could bear. Plenty of “whys” and “can’t you do somethings.”

    Job 14:1 “Man who is born of a woman is few of days and full of trouble.” 1 Peter 5:10 James

    1:12 John 16:33 “I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

    We are promised troubles and we are promised comfort not ease of passage.

  21. Matt,

    Great post! I was just accepted into a seminary that I had my heart set on, only to have a priority shift happen and feel the need to be closer to my mom (which means attending a different school). Then yesterday my buddy lost his job (no worries, I didn’t quote that “verse” to him lol). But you provide a fantastic reminder, one that my wife gave me a few days ago: as a Christian, I need to depend on God. If I’ve got it all planned out, with a plan B, C, D, and E, there is no need for God. Thankfully, I’m in a “stretching phase” and this was a great reminder to move forward relying on God, not on what I can figure out.

    Keep it up!

    p.s. I guess it’s like the Marine Corps…you never know how much you can handle until you’ve been pushed PAST your limit…in my walk, I’m learning more and more how much slack God can pick up when I can’t handle it. To be honest, that’s the only way to “live on the edge” (hokey as it sounds) as a Christian. I’ve found it only gets boring when we have it all figured out and have eliminated the need for God.

  22. This may be the best post you’ve ever written. (Of course I say that because I completely agree with you and also believe, like you, that understanding this truth is critical.) I always cringe when I hear someone say God will never give you more than you can handle. If I know the person well enough and we’re not in a situation that will cause them embarrassment, I try to gently interject, “Actually, God gives you what He intends to handle through you — not what you can handle on your own.” God loves us too much to leave us in the selfish shallows of life. The thorn is ultimately a gift.

    Thanks for taking the time to articulate this important truth in your creative and winsome way. I’m off to share this now . . .

  23. Already lots of comments, but just had to say this is a well written post. I’ve always cringed and been annoyed by “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” Besides depending on God, we need each other in the Body of Christ. So much New Testament emphasis on Christians helping each other, encouraging each other, bearing each others burdens, etc.

    • Phillipians 4:13 “I can do all things through christ who strengthens me” no trial is to great to overcome if we are accepting of the Lord and we have him in our hearts. The saying God never gives you more than you can handle is completely true, bc he doesn’t. We can handle anything but we must rely on the Lord for strength, courage, wisdom, etc… That saying isn’t trying to tell us that we don’t need to depend on God…it is telling us that depending on God is the only way to get through the toughest of tough challenges in life. When we are challenged with something we must find the way to get through it. In other words we must find God to guide us through it. We were put on this earth to worship him and trust in him. If somebody doesn’t have God in there life they won’t be able to get through some things. “God never gives us more than we can handle” the “us” doesn’t mean our individual selves without God. The “us” is referring to our individual selves with God in our hearts. We must find God to get us through tough times, and trust in him. So no we are never given more than we can handle because if God is in our hearts and spirit, we can prevail because God is Perfect, he doesn’t make mistakes, and he doesn’t let us down. But we must trust in him and learn patience — Patience means to bear trials without complaining– we have to prove our faith in him my being patient.

      • You are absolutely right, and I think we are in complete agreement. Our gospel of self reliance is t compatible with dependence on God though. We think WE should be able to handle everything God throws at us (and whatever God throws at us should be easy and painless,)

  24. Crystal @ Serving Joyfully September 29, 2012 at 7:57 pm

    This is uncanny! I have the exact same feelings/response to this phrase, and actually mapped out a post this weekend very similar :)

  25. OK, I’m hooked. Found you when you followed my Twitter, and connected with both your grace and grit. This is the kind of stuff I need to hear. It sounds like real life. Gimme more.

  26. Love this post!

    I feel compelled to add that this isn’t just an American thing, although of course America puts a particular spin on it.

    It’s a human nature thing.

    Each of us in our own way keeps telling God “Don’t worry, I’ve got this one!” while our lives get more and more out of hand.

  27. This is so true, Matt. Thanks for posting this!

  28. Reading this, I am reminded of something a professor said during class: “Life as we actually live it is about managing the fact that it is a poor substitute for the fantasies we have about how it might be.”

    -It would seem to me that we are constantly being “given” things that we feel as though we cannot “handle.” Furthermore, whether or not God gives us all of what we experience in life is quite the debate in and of itself. If God “gave” the Jews Auschwitz and Dachau (and on top of that, expected them to “handle” it), then that certainly would put God on trial.

  29. Yes! It is disheartening how people just make things up and say it is in the Bible.I heard a song on Christian radio on the way home from work that goes something like “just rememmber what he said, “I will never give you more than you can handle.”

    It dishonors God when people just make things up and say it is scripture. I have heard people say this before when referring to trials and hardship. They will say something like, “It’s OK brother. Hang in there. God promises to never give us more than we can handle.”

    THAT IS NOT ANYWHERE IN THE BIBLE. It is a horrible misinterpretation of 1 Corinthians 10:13.

    No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)

    This scripture is referring to temptation and not hardship or trials. This type of out of context misinterpretation is becoming more common. You see it a lot with all those photos people upload to Facebook with pictures of puppy dogs and rainbows and a scripture verse. It is an abomination to abuse and misuse God’s Word.

  30. Isn’t this phrase based on 1 Corinthians 10:13

    “No temptation[a] has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted[b] beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted,[c] he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

    What about those who commit suicide? Concerning the character of God, is this aspect of him saved only for christians, or is it a universal truth that applies to all so unbelievers can eventually come to him also?

  31. As hard as it is to understand, God doesn’t purposely make things happen to us. It is the sinful nature of this world that allows the devil to make terrible things happen. Sometimes God just choses not to fix the mess the devil caused. We’ll never understand why he choses to fixes some and not others. He has a reason and purpose for it though.

  32. I used to think God does not give us more than we can handle…until He did! Here is a great quote: Wrestling With An Angel” by Greg Lucas
    My experience is that God will place a burden on you so heavy that you cannot possibly carry it alone. He will break your back and your will. He will buckle your legs until you fall flat beneath the crushing weight of your load. All the while He will walk beside you waiting for you to come to the point where you must depend on Him.
    ‘My power is made perfect in your weakness,’ He says, as we strain under our burden.
    Whatever the burden, it might indeed get worse, but know this-God is faithful. And while we change and get old, He does not. When we get weaker, He remains strong. And in our weakness and humility, He offers us true, lasting, transforming, and undeserved grace.”

    • You said you used to think God never gave us more than we could handle…Until he did, however your quote completely backs up the belief that we can handle anything. God is a jealous God, and he created us so that we WOULD WORSHIP HIS HOLY NAME. People seem to be getting this wrong. We CAN handle anything as long as we rely on God. He wants us to depend on him and trust in him, sometimes we have to learn that we cant do it without God to understand that we need him. If you cant get through a challenge in life its not because you couldn’t handle it, its because you cant handle it on your OWN. Phillipians 4:13 “I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHO STRENGTHENS ME” unless you can handle anything life throws at you are accepting of christ and he is in your heart.

  33. I don’t agree. I think that god will not let us endure more than we can handle, and that we should realize that we are stronger than we think we are… Especially with god at our side.

  34. well what if we as humans don’t see that we can handle it. our minds believe we can’t handle when maybe we really can handle those things, we just don’t think we can.

  35. Strength and Honor January 31, 2013 at 5:09 pm

    God did not give Paul the thorn in the flesh. Scripture clearly states that it was a “messenger of Satan”. No God didn’t give it to him. God and the devil do not work together.
    Here is a link for more on Paul’s thorn in the flesh.
    What the Devil means for harm, God will turn for the good. God is a master of turning, what was meant for your destruction by the enemy of your soul the devil, into a testimony of deliverance and triumph!.
    John 10:10 KJV
    (10) The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.
    …. here is the test to judge whether it be from God or the devil. Is it good or bad? Does it bring life or death? Is it giving or taking (stealing)?
    James 1:16-17 ESV
    (16) Do not be deceived, my beloved brothers.
    (17) Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

    I would also like to mention that God doesn’t promise we won’t be tempted with more than we can handle, rather He says He will provide a way of escape, when the temptation is greater than we can handle.

    • I completely agree with you I believe that he got this one All wrong Plillipians 4:13 “I can do all things through christ who strengthens me” Nothing is impossible when we trust in the Lord that he will see us through any trial. We must learn Patience.

  36. I think you have a nice post here, however I disagree with you. Just because we complain about something doesn’t mean that we cant handle it, we cant see or understand what God does so sometimes it may be difficult to realize that we can handle it and often times we don’t realize how strong we truly are until we are tested. We are put through storms to teach us Patience and other lessons. Some people give up, the don’t try hard enough, or make excuses that they cant handle something but they can they just aren’t trying hard enough. “If God is only giving you what you can handle, you’ll never have to be dependent on God” this is way off in my opinion. God wants us to worship his holy name when we are struck with an overabundance we have a choice to use God to guide or try on our own. When we are face with our most difficult challenge in life I believe God wants us to realize that we CANT do it by ourselves and that we need him. The saying “God never gives us more than we can handle” isn’t saying that we will never need God to get through things if we try hard enough it is say that we are capable of getting through any and all Challenges in life regardless of how hard AS LONG AS WE USE God AND KEEP HIM FIRST. Romans 8:28 “All things work together for good to them who love the Lord and are called according to his purpose”, Phillipians 4:13 “I can do ALL things through CHRIST who strengthens me” These verses are saying that We can Handle ANYTHING as long as we have Christ and trust in him meaning we MUST depend on him. I think you may have looked in the wrong direction with this post because every point you made I virtually disagree with and I don’t believe you are seeing the real message that is Nothing to challenging for us with God in our lives to guide us, Not all storms in life are from God they can be from poor choices, but God can teach us something with any storm, but we have to accept him and be willing to learn. I don’t think you can argue the fact that God is Perfect, and with that being said If we rely on him for guidance, love, support, happiness, strength, wisdom, courage, etc…, he will never let us down and he never fails.

    • I agree Maurice. If I didn’t have God I would not be able to bear the loss in my life. Knowing he is with me gives me comfort and strength. I cannot nor would I want to go through this life without God. Greatest burden bearer I know!!!

    • Amen!!

    • Great way of putting it Maurice, I really think we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. It is said that on a regular day Martin Luther would pray for 2 hours and a busy day 3 hours. I really think we can handle everything God gives us and we should create a balance in life.

  37. I agree with you premise brother. Keep up the good work while representing Him accurately.

    Blessings on the journey,

    Mark Boyce

  38. Great post! Thanks for sharing biblical truth. It’s not easy––but it’s the truth!

  39. Maybe i didnt fully understand the way you worded this, especially without an explanation to why you believe God has to give you more than you can handle, you should provide a scripture to your ‘belief’ to prove truth wrong.
    1 Corinthians 10:13 it says, “No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will NOT let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will always provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.” Which in fact PROVES God WILL NOT give you more than you can handle. I’m not quiet sure where you get your info,or even if you own a bible, but you should do more research next time, please. So, people get the right, honest message!!

    • You quoted: 1 Corinthians 10:13 it says, “No TEMPTATION has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will NOT let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will always provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.”

      You just contradicted yourself! The passage talks about temptations not about what YOU personally cannot handle. Just because a temptation is common to men doesn’t mean it’s something they can handle.

      Hence as stated in my views below that every now and the angels will come and bring divine assistance to those who call out for spiritual aid as God himself CANNOT intervene unless you are a very and I mean VERY special person to him that is part of his plan.

      Most of us are just wanderers who missed the ride home so we get born as a result of our parents making choices that God may or may not have approved. Just cause we think we are in love doesn’t mean it’s part of God’s divine plan.

      I believe God is always adjusting his plan because of free will and believe in the YCYOR camp. (You Create You’re Own Reality) and demons will try to make us feel powerless if we are so strong we are viewed as a threat.

      The government is working real hard to make Christians viewed as terrorist.

      One Colorado policeman went onto Glenn Beck concerned with what is happening in his department as they (Colorado state police) are being told to be very careful around Christians plus to view them as potential terrorist because many of them own firearms so they’ve got Christians under their watch.

      Be very careful what you say online if you live in Colorado especially if you own guns.

  40. Hi. My parents believe in the secular view though less and less so I want to know how to approach it without getting into an argument which I usually get blamed for starting even though I didn’t and am just defending myself.

    My experiences in life is that it’s not rather that God can give you more then you can handle but rather how much you are tempted.

    While churches will never admit this I believe God and The Devil actually play a game of chess which the chapters of Job seems to hint at and some of Matthews.

    I think in which we are the pawns and if Satan wins a move God backs away allowing Satan to toy with us which our cries to God falls on deaf ears unless we ask for angel guidance because God CANNOT help us due to rules we are not aware of.

    I guess I am more of a Deist since I believe God NEVER shows himself except thru the word. As a matter of fact. I think those in the OT who claim to hear the voice of God was/were actually hearing Archangel Michael because they claim it was a man’s voice sounding like a trumpet and there is no other leader then Archangel Michael who is suppose to be the one to slay the devil in the upcoming battle.

    Only Moses actually got to experience God speak to him which I think God chosen him special until Moses made the choice to break the ten commandments then God stopped speaking to him afterwards because of that sin of anger. Which I disagree with God’s decision because Jesus got angry and overthrew the tables the money handlers used when he was disgusted at all the swindling and fraud going on charging people money to pray.

    Sometimes I think angels feel so sorry for us that once in a while they actually go against divine orders of non interference which is where they save a baby from being hit by a car or falling in the families swimming pool and the parents call it divine assistance.

    (Yes those things do happen with no logical explanation and more)

    These angels likely get in trouble later for interfering and prepare themselves for backlash by their masters in order to save the life of a mortal.

  41. What the hell? Where did my paragraphs above I neatly arranged go? Now it’s just one big wall of text. This is NOT how I planned it out.

  42. I am going now as I know this site as too good to be true.

    I’ve notice a strange but persistent pattern where the best philosophical sites like this one are often ones God makes it so I CANNOT comment on so I’ll make my leave now and save myself further embarrasment. I mean embarrass.

    Based on the patterns I should’ve known this site would do something to screw up my comments. I can never win.

  43. I am going now as I know this site was too good to be true plus I have headaches I had to go to the doctor for and am going to be under medicine for a long time. :(

    I’ve notice a strange but persistent pattern where the best philosophical sites like this one are often ones God allows it so I cannot comment as if some sort of divine punishment I must endure so I’ll go now and just be alone as usual.

    Based on the patterns I should’ve known this site would do something to screw up my comments. I can never win.

  44. I am going now as I am having pounding headaches. I am being put under mediceine by the doctor for them. I cannot think straight hardly all of a sudden and I should’ve known this site was TOO GOOD to be true for commenting.

    I’ve notice a strange but persistent pattern where often the best philosophical websites are ones I cannot comment on in which God makes or allows it so the comment form will screw me up or I’ll word things wrong.

    In fact I already once got a database 500 non connection error.

  45. I think the implication is that “God will not give you more than you (and He) can handle.” Clearly, though, that implication is often muddled and misconstrued and used as a bit of a self-help mantra.
    Chris Sumpter recently posted..Luke 24:36-53

  46. I really believe that you can creat a balance in life and work diligently at it to do the Lord’s work, yes we are very busy at times but as the Bible says I can do all things through Christ who strengthen’s me (Philippians 4:13) and thats all things according to His will in your life. It pretty much sums up the whole argument of not being able to handle, in my opinion.

  47. all i would want from God is that he will help me meet a good woman to share my life with, instead of being alone all the time. there are so many very nasty rotten women out there nowadays that like to curse at us men when we will try to start a conversation with the one that we would really like to meet. why is that? how in the world could many women these days be so very mean to us men that would want a love life? it is certainly very normal for us straight men that would want that, just as much like the many other straight men and women that were very blessed by God to have met one another and have a family too. we are certainly no different than the ones that have their life all together, and with so many Gay Women out there today that really makes it very difficult for many of us men that are looking.

  48. Thank you for that. Four years ago we were living in Az taking care of my mother- in law in the last month’s of her life. In order to do so, we left our home, family, friends and church. It was to be for a short time. My husband, who was an elder/ pastor in our church had taken a leave of absence to do this. Along came a woman who pursued him relentlessly. He fell. Badly. In the end I was left with nothing, no resources, no home, and the responsibility of two toddlers. Devastated didn’t even begin to cover it. I heard all the platitudes and trite assurances that did nothing but anger me. Along with ” You need to rejoice in the Lord,” I heard “God will never give you more than you can handle.” Wait… what??? Have these people never read the bible? Have they met Him? That is absurd. I know Him. Pretty sure he wasn’t rejoicing in my trial. And of course he gives us more than we can handle, for the express purpose that he will be glorified when he overcomes, when he delivers, when he restores – when we endure by his grace alone and his love and sovereignty are clearly displayed in our lives.
    He showed me quite clearly 3.5 years after the trial began, that he quite literally turned me over to be sifted. It was way more than I could handle. But he prevailed, we survived, my girls and I, and the Lord was and will be glorified.

  49. Yes it is in the bible.

    For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not [a]adjusted and [b]adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to [c]a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently. 1 Corinthians 10:13 Amplified bible

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