Almost every town has one of these places…
One of those shady looking sex stores with the red lights and the scary looking lingerie in the window.
Yeah, most people try not to be seen going into one of those places. People are kind of embarassed about being seen there. So I’ve got a really unique day on the blog…I brought the sex store to you, and no one even has to see you.
Shula Jackson is the proprietor of “Sensuous Wife,” an online Christian sex shop (which happens to be not at all frightening.) I became acquainted with Shula (who is also not scary) when she was featured on Matthew Paul Turner’s blog, and I knew I had to feature her here. I know you are probably giggling nervously with curiosity. You’ll want to read what she had to say. Plus, you guessed it, there’s a big giveaway at the end.
Shula, can you tell us just a bit about yourself, and Sensuous Wife?
I’m a woman who has been walking with the Lord for 35 years. I was raised in a Christian home. I’m a preacher’s kid in fact! My mama and daddy have been married for more than 40 years and they still have the hots for each other. After starting the store, I have continued my office job and God has always provided a caring customer service employee to help me take care of my customers. I was raised in the South and I live in Texas.
Tell us about how “Sensuous Wife” came to exist. Is running a Christian sex shop like being an Avon lady?
One of my favorite scriptures is 2 Corinthians 1:4 “We comfort others with the comfort we have received from God.” I have received a lot of healing in my sexuality and it’s been my joy to pass on to others the resources that have been helpful for me.
I had back pain and a physical therapist recommended I try Liberator shapes. The support that the shapes gave me greatly reduced “morning after” flareups. More and more I was recommending Liberator shapes and other sexual health resources and both my online and offline friends asked me more and more “Where can I buy this stuff in a place that doesn’t make me feel uncomfortable?”
I asked some friends to pray for me about the possibility of opening a store. Within 24 hours, I began to receive product orders. Within another day or two, a husband wife design team approached me and asked me if I’d like them to help me design an online retail site. They wanted to help me because they believed what I was doing was a ministry. This spring we will celebrate two years in business.
The sex shops in my town have frightening names and window displays. What makes your shop unique? Why do Christians need a sex shop?
You’re not the only one who feels that way. People have shared with me their experience of visiting a retail store and feeling uncomfortable with the prominent displays of porn and the jaded disrespectful demeanor in which the topic of sex was presented.
My store is unique in that every aspect of the store was designed to offer sexuality resources in a safe, respectful, fun, educational way.
Yeah, “educational” isn’t usually the word that comes to my mind.
It is really important to me that each product at Sensuous Wife is presented in a way that is friendly to those with sexual abuse or sexual addiction issues.
I am also reminded of one guest who told us one of his leg was amputated at the knee. We were able to help him select a product that gave him the support he needed to make love without his prosthesis. Serving our guests is an honor and a joy. I believe Christians sometimes miss out on a lot of opportunities to experience pleasure and oneness due to a sense of shame or fear. Christians need a safe place to see the variety of products that are available to help them enjoy their five senses and enjoy each other. That’s why my store is here.
Now obviously humanity made it a long way without “marital aids.” Some pastors, authors, and Christians even say that “marital aids” are bad, since guys can’t compete with toys that run on batteries. What do you say to that?
Humanity made it quite a long way without prescription medication or technological advances in health care too. My mother is a breast cancer survivor. If she had been born a few decades earlier, the technology would not exist and she wouldn’t be here. I choose to embrace the same gratitude when I consider the products that are now available to help us enjoy healthy sexual function. If a woman truly wants to only interact with an inhuman toy and not her human husband, then I believe that would indicate an legitimate need for marital counseling or sex therapy. One of the most frequently asked questions I receive from husbands who shop at my store is “Will the toy replace me?” and I always assure them that no it will not.
Every commercial I see for sex pills and whatnot says people should ask their doctors if they’re healthy enough for sex. Are your products going to cause massive injuries to innocent people?
I cannot suppress a giggle as I imagine a couple in an emergency room with a sprained wrist after they attempt sex in a handstand position. But in all seriousness, the safety of products was definitely something I considered when selecting our product line. We offer high quality products such as those made with surgical grade silicone. Clearly, people must know their own body and exercise good judgment and self care, and we are here to support that. One of our guests has Parkinson’s disease and weakness in her wrists, and she wanted to know the weight of each item. We started offering weight along with measurement on product descriptions.
Sexuality does not go away as we age. When I was a teen, I stayed with my Aunt and Uncle one summer. She was in her 50’s, he in his 60’s. One morning, I remember her walking down the stairs from their bedroom into the kitchen wearing a big smile. I was sitting at the kitchen table. She looked me in the eye and smiled and said, “Honey, the longer you stay married, the lovemaking just gets sweeter and sweeter!” I blushed and smiled. This 30 second conversation had a beautifully positive influence on my perception of married sexuality.
Okay, time for the giveaway. Shula’s graciously giving away a gift from the store to one lucky reader, retail vaule: $130! Just comment or tweet this post to be entered into the random drawing. All you need to comment is an email address, so Shula can contact you. Then, go check out Shula’s store for yourself. Giggidy!